>I know this isn’t a pleasant topic for anyone but there seems to be a rash of funerals in my friends’ lives lately. My poor little boy has been to 6 funerals, viewings, or memorial services in his 4 years of living. I know some people hate kids at such events thinking it isn’t appropriate or whatnot.
Personally, I think attending a funeral is okay for kids and sometimes even beneficial. Kids, especially older ones, need closure and a way of grieving just as much as adults. That being said, I also think if your child misbehaves, then you should leave quietly and not disturb the service.
Most of the funerals, etc. that Charlie has been too are family ones. I am proud to say that my son is aware of how to behave in such settings. Of course, as a good parent, I am also prepared. Charlie has his toy bag with quiet toys like Hot Wheels to keep him occupied and we sit in the last row for a quick exit if needed. Before going we talk about expectations and how to behave. I am proud to say that we have received many compliments on how well behaved our son was during the service over the years.
This is not something I do lightly. I try to find a baby sitter for the non-family events but sometimes you just can’t get one. However, I felt strongly about attending the service to show support and love for my friends during their time of grief. Again, I plan ahead which makes all the difference.
Time may change my feelings about this but I doubt it.
